So a friend on Facebook had asked me several questions about
me and dating…it was more of a general poking for information email. So instead I told him that I would write
this, because if one guy wonders…there is going to be more….so this will be
used as basic information.
I don’t have a type of guy.
When I was younger, yes I had a type. The guy had to be tall, long hair and with blue/hazel/green
eyes. That was my type of guy. That guy had me drooling or foaming at the
mouth.. eventually as time went on the length of hair was not that
important. Now, I am looking for a
great guy….he’s not always going to be nice, but he will know how to have a
conversation with me…know how to treat me and of course have some morals and
values.
I know that is very simple.
The reason is because love comes in any form. It could be a guy that has noticed me and he
is not even on my radar and a few simple acts of kindness may grab my
attention. I am unaware however of men
liking me. Yes, I am focused and busy on
life that I don’t pay attention. I am
use to hearing cat calls and degrading comments where I shoot them evil looks.
But once you have gotten my attention and you are on my
radar…here’s a few things that you should know:
I do have a high sex drive for the right guy. I am not 90-years old and if let’s say sex
does happen and you know how to do it…more likely I am going to want more, but
it is more of a spiritual thing. Many
cultures believe that having sex brings the two souls as one. Now….that doesn’t mean that my legs pry apart
for any guy. It means that if you can
get past all the other things…there could be sex. Why did I put it first because that is where
90% of the guys mind is…on sex.
Next is that I am an intellectual being. If I tell you what is on my mind or in my
heart…I am giving you every detail for you to formulate about me. I know guys would have some weird infatuation
about me but can’t even hold a conversation with me. Unfortunate they fall off my radar and they
wonder why and no matter how hard I tell them-they assume that I am talking
about some sort of sex talk. Again, I
do enjoy sex talk…it’s funny and perverted and it can be enjoyable for some who
are not virgin nun ears. I do not like
a guy who is always talking about it…even though it is fun, but if I am talking
about publishing and such and it goes right back to sex talk…that will turn me
off. Again, it is fun and all but not
all the time.
I am a logical and rational being, if a guy tells me
something that is harsh and cold. I will
remove the emotional state and think how they meant it. If I am confused, I will refer to a friend’s
opinion. No, I will not bash the guy
because we all know friends and family tend to side that the person can be a
bad guy or girl. I hate that. I ask for the basic situation…the what
if?? What do you think it means in this
situation?? Sometimes being in the heart
of the situation causes undo rest in oneself and you need a second opinion.
I am intense and have been told this by a numerous
people. If you are afraid of a woman
that knows what she wants or where she wants to go in life….then stop and find
someone else more your style. I will
challenge you to strive to become better, if you look at it as a bad thing…again…stop….find
someone else more your style. When I
have set my goals in place and start to move forward on them-I can become very
intense. If I like a guy…and I mean
truly like a guy…there is no half assing it.
I am not going to give the guy 20% of myself. I am going to give him 100% of me…that is how
I go….All or nothing. Like the saying goes…can’t
handle the fire …then get out of the kitchen.
If a guy gets to the point of asking me on a date, he’ll
need to understand that I have a daughter and I do have a rule. He pays for babysitting…that simple. I love
movies, long walks on the beach and even hiking. The date does not have to cost much….if the
guy is going for brownie points and yes, I am going to list that here…he may
even include my daughter, but she does have autism and tends to get over
stimulated. Showing patience with her will give you
brownie points with me….since she is my universe.
Now, I have no interest in a guy that I have to chase. I have done it before and it is a
hassle. The guy later comes across some
sort victim like I stalked him.. So if a guy wants me then he has done his
research and wants to keep me as his.
There are times that we all can become insecure and not know
what you want. I am okay with that, but
if you mention on a numerous times about your confusion-then I will walk away
even if I like the guy. It is not my job
to make a man realize what he wants. If
he pursued me and showed interest in me than it is something to say that he
wants to keep me. I am fairly easy to
keep….but granted most guys don’t know what they want with a woman like me.
I am a romantic. Even
though I write horror, I am a die-hard romantic. Let’s say the hypothetical and that I did
walk away and you want me back….grab some courage and do what you are
thinking. Trust me…major brownie points
will be awarded and you will release my hidden feminine side. It’s like a cat that has been abused. It takes trust. I am a woman…I may not show it all the time,
but I am a woman.
I am demented and twisted, but don’t think for one moment
that is going to happen to you, What I write or think is two different things
than my actions. Which leads back to
being a romantic and I know most guys never get to experience it because it
doesn’t get to that point. I do like to
hug, I like to cook and all those female domestic things and I love being
appreciated. If I am not going to be
appreciated…I have friends and family that do and there is no point in you
being in my life.
Honesty….I love honesty, but not that joking, smart ass
honesty because reality I am logical and may not grasp it. Be straight forward with me. I give a guy brownie points for being direct
with me.
I don’t compete for any one’s time. If a guy that is interested in me picks his
friends over a date with me-I will continue to allow that till you don’t hear
from me. My daughter’s father would
force me to make that choice for him.
Either I make him chose me or his friends. If you pick your friends over the woman you
claim to love-then it is safe to say….you are infatuated with me…and please let
me go. I have no problem with a guy
having friends, but if you blow me off for your friends in the start of the stages
of “wanting to get to know me”-it’s safe to say that I won’t be getting any of
your time if we are together. Which goes back to having to chase a guy and I
won’t do that again.
If you want to make time for me, please regard the simple
fact that I have a daughter. I plan my life around her. If you want to have a home cooked meal and
watch a movie…please join us. We are a
loving duo that is looking to make it a trio.
I am a geek. I love
horror movies, anime, video games, and all the wonderful such. Now if you want
to be my date to a film festival and all that stuff…please…remember that I will
geek out.
I am a firm believer in second chances. Sometimes I may appear so intense and
passionate that it gives a guy the frights, but if he is really interested…he
can always try again. We are not
perfect. We all make mistakes and I am
one of those women that loves to try again.
If you are intrigued by me, please research me….learn what
is my favorite things…don’t assume that watching my Facebook page is going to provide
you all the answers. Don’t assume that I
am not going to look your direction. I
have a lot on my mind and at times have blinders on…so…a friendly hello is
welcoming and if you keep it up in wonderful warm conversations….you will grab
my attention….now the rest is really up to you
Again this is some basic stuff. I want a guy who knows what he wants. He can be a bit insecure, he can be goofy and
he can also know when to be serious. He
can be calm, cool and collected to my fire.
It is said that opposites attract but I would love to build a solid
foundation in friendship…so…reality is…I am looking for a soul that can play
with my demons and be at ease in my presence.
I am not a Goddess after all…even though I joke about it
Irenia Guajardo
~Hellz Writer~
~Hellz Writer~
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