Information about dating me

So a friend on Facebook had asked me several questions about me and dating…it was more of a general poking for information email.  So instead I told him that I would write this, because if one guy wonders…there is going to be more….so this will be used as basic information.

I don’t have a type of guy.  When I was younger, yes I had a type.  The guy had to be tall, long hair and with blue/hazel/green eyes.  That was my type of guy.  That guy had me drooling or foaming at the mouth.. eventually as time went on the length of hair was not that important.    Now, I am looking for a great guy….he’s not always going to be nice, but he will know how to have a conversation with me…know how to treat me and of course have some morals and values.

I know that is very simple.  The reason is because love comes in any form.  It could be a guy that has noticed me and he is not even on my radar and a few simple acts of kindness may grab my attention.  I am unaware however of men liking me.  Yes, I am focused and busy on life that I don’t pay attention.  I am use to hearing cat calls and degrading comments where I shoot them evil looks.

But once you have gotten my attention and you are on my radar…here’s a few things that you should know:

I do have a high sex drive for the right guy.  I am not 90-years old and if let’s say sex does happen and you know how to do it…more likely I am going to want more, but it is more of a spiritual thing.  Many cultures believe that having sex brings the two souls as one.  Now….that doesn’t mean that my legs pry apart for any guy.  It means that if you can get past all the other things…there could be sex.  Why did I put it first because that is where 90% of the guys mind is…on sex.

Next is that I am an intellectual being.  If I tell you what is on my mind or in my heart…I am giving you every detail for you to formulate about me.  I know guys would have some weird infatuation about me but can’t even hold a conversation with me.  Unfortunate they fall off my radar and they wonder why and no matter how hard I tell them-they assume that I am talking about some sort of sex talk.   Again, I do enjoy sex talk…it’s funny and perverted and it can be enjoyable for some who are not virgin nun ears.   I do not like a guy who is always talking about it…even though it is fun, but if I am talking about publishing and such and it goes right back to sex talk…that will turn me off.  Again, it is fun and all but not all the time.

I am a logical and rational being, if a guy tells me something that is harsh and cold.  I will remove the emotional state and think how they meant it.  If I am confused, I will refer to a friend’s opinion.  No, I will not bash the guy because we all know friends and family tend to side that the person can be a bad guy or girl.  I hate that.  I ask for the basic situation…the what if??  What do you think it means in this situation??  Sometimes being in the heart of the situation causes undo rest in oneself and you need a second opinion.

I am intense and have been told this by a numerous people.  If you are afraid of a woman that knows what she wants or where she wants to go in life….then stop and find someone else more your style.  I will challenge you to strive to become better, if you look at it as a bad thing…again…stop….find someone else more your style.  When I have set my goals in place and start to move forward on them-I can become very intense.  If I like a guy…and I mean truly like a guy…there is no half assing it.  I am not going to give the guy 20% of myself.  I am going to give him 100% of me…that is how I go….All or nothing.  Like the saying goes…can’t handle the fire …then get out of the kitchen.

If a guy gets to the point of asking me on a date, he’ll need to understand that I have a daughter and I do have a rule.  He pays for babysitting…that simple. I love movies, long walks on the beach and even hiking.  The date does not have to cost much….if the guy is going for brownie points and yes, I am going to list that here…he may even include my daughter, but she does have autism and tends to get over stimulated.   Showing patience with her will give you brownie points with me….since she is my universe.

Now, I have no interest in a guy that I have to chase.  I have done it before and it is a hassle.  The guy later comes across some sort victim like I stalked him.. So if a guy wants me then he has done his research and wants to keep me as his.

There are times that we all can become insecure and not know what you want.  I am okay with that, but if you mention on a numerous times about your confusion-then I will walk away even if I like the guy.  It is not my job to make a man realize what he wants.  If he pursued me and showed interest in me than it is something to say that he wants to keep me.  I am fairly easy to keep….but granted most guys don’t know what they want with a woman like me.

I am a romantic.  Even though I write horror, I am a die-hard romantic.  Let’s say the hypothetical and that I did walk away and you want me back….grab some courage and do what you are thinking.  Trust me…major brownie points will be awarded and you will release my hidden feminine side.   It’s like a cat that has been abused.  It takes trust.   I am a woman…I may not show it all the time, but I am a woman.

I am demented and twisted, but don’t think for one moment that is going to happen to you, What I write or think is two different things than my actions.  Which leads back to being a romantic and I know most guys never get to experience it because it doesn’t get to that point.  I do like to hug, I like to cook and all those female domestic things and I love being appreciated.  If I am not going to be appreciated…I have friends and family that do and there is no point in you being in my life.

Honesty….I love honesty, but not that joking, smart ass honesty because reality I am logical and may not grasp it.  Be straight forward with me.  I give a guy brownie points for being direct with me. 

I don’t compete for any one’s time.  If a guy that is interested in me picks his friends over a date with me-I will continue to allow that till you don’t hear from me.  My daughter’s father would force me to make that choice for him.  Either I make him chose me or his friends.  If you pick your friends over the woman you claim to love-then it is safe to say….you are infatuated with me…and please let me go.  I have no problem with a guy having friends, but if you blow me off for your friends in the start of the stages of “wanting to get to know me”-it’s safe to say that I won’t be getting any of your time if we are together. Which goes back to having to chase a guy and I won’t do that again.

If you want to make time for me, please regard the simple fact that I have a daughter. I plan my life around her.  If you want to have a home cooked meal and watch a movie…please join us.  We are a loving duo that is looking to make it a trio.

I am a geek.  I love horror movies, anime, video games, and all the wonderful such. Now if you want to be my date to a film festival and all that stuff…please…remember that I will geek out.

I am a firm believer in second chances.  Sometimes I may appear so intense and passionate that it gives a guy the frights, but if he is really interested…he can always try again.  We are not perfect.  We all make mistakes and I am one of those women that loves to try again.

If you are intrigued by me, please research me….learn what is my favorite things…don’t assume that watching my Facebook page is going to provide you all the answers.  Don’t assume that I am not going to look your direction.  I have a lot on my mind and at times have blinders on…so…a friendly hello is welcoming and if you keep it up in wonderful warm conversations….you will grab my attention….now the rest is really up to you

Again this is some basic stuff.  I want a guy who knows what he wants.  He can be a bit insecure, he can be goofy and he can also know when to be serious.  He can be calm, cool and collected to my fire.  It is said that opposites attract but I would love to build a solid foundation in friendship…so…reality is…I am looking for a soul that can play with my demons and be at ease in my presence.

I am not a Goddess after all…even though I joke about it

 

Irenia Guajardo
~Hellz Writer~

 

Legal information about blogs and other things…..

When a person is cyberstalking and cyber harassment there is a set of laws.  And one, it has been brought to my attention that a couple of photos that are used on this blog is being used on a just for fun site on Facebook. Two-that is considered breach of privacy laws, especially when using an intellectual property of a likeness of a person and second-cyber harassment and a major sign of cyber stalking.  On this “Just for Fun” page it claims the FBI were contacted and my daughter’s blog was reported….so I went to the FBI website.

“The IC3 accepts online Internet crime complaints from either the actual victim or from a third party to the complainant. We can best process your complaint if we receive accurate and complete information from you. Therefore, we request that you provide the following information when filing a complaint:

Your name

Your mailing address

Your telephone number

The name, address, telephone number, and Web address, if available, of the individual or organization you believe defrauded you.

Specific details on how, why, and when you believe you were defrauded.

Any other relevant information you believe is necessary to support your complaint.”

The FBI removed their link to Social Media sites. The person’s picture that is being used gave permission to use it on Serenity’s fan page and her blog.  This is not a website, it is a blog and as the blog owner-I know the standard steps it takes to get a blog taken down by Google.  You will need numerous reports to Google where they will do an investigation.  When they feel they have enough evidence, they contact the admin of the blog. 

If names were not used in your blog-it could be about anyone.  If you are the one reporting the blog because you feel it is about you-the owner of the blog can then report you for “CYBER STALKING” since the name of the person was not used. 

All the blogs are all linked to a source or so.  My daughter’s blog is linked to her fan page and you “MUST” go to her fan page to access said blog.  If you access her blog via her Fan Page—it is a clear stage of “CYBER STALKING” & “CYBER HARASSMENT”

Blogs written rarely contain names and if they do-they do not have “ANY” last names.  Last names link a person and with that can result in a civil suit.  Many people know their rights of free speech, but when you use names and I do mean-full blown names-you are on grounds of privacy, slander and so forth/

Furthermore the FBI does not get involved with blogs where names are not used and you are using your horrible experiences as information to other people.   That is freedom of Speech.  You are free to discuss your experiences without the use of names.   The people in question may or may not innocent, but you are free to discuss the situation with your fans or readers.

As a writer of several blogs, I have discussed several horrible life experiences and have shared them with the public.  Now, when you are using fact and just gossip as information, you need to back it up with witnesses.  Since a couple of my admin have PDF, screenshot things where a certain individual has shown that she has mentioned my name, used intellectual property without permission-it has gotten to the point…that this is gotten ridiculous.  I have evidence to back up my claims of information used on the “blog” in question.

As a writer, I know full well there is more than 2-sides to the story and yet when you are going around accusing someone of living in a place for years-have the evidence to back it up.  When you are spreading gossip, please make sure that the person is “IN FACT” doing what you are claiming.  I have seen countless times that people spread their own gossip.  “She said this”, when in fact-nothing was uttered from my mouth.  “She is doing this”-when in fact, I am introvert….I barely socialize with many people, especially where I live.  My thing is, please use fact when talking about someone.  When a person makes a scene in front of many people and it gets back to you, especially that it is caught on camera and when you know this person-IT MAKES YOU CRINGE.  It’s that “DAMN, I CAN’T BELIEVE I KNOW THAT PERSON” moment and you make excuses for them.

The thing is, where I live-I barely associate with anyone.  It’s more of a friendly nod, because since I have lived and worked there-people can pop…and I do mean like popcorn pop.  One moment they look fine, just sitting there like a little kernel and one false move and they “POP”

I have heard horror story upon horror story-of people that have known a person to just “POP” and it doesn’t help that they are a liar…and not the kind of liar that is spreading one or two lies, but the kind that believes their own lies.  It sucks, but people are out there like that and I thought this person that was said and done-can move one….but sadly-they do not know the law. 

This blog is for information for others who may write a blog or even if you are writing notes or long statuses-NEVER MENTION NAMES!!!  NEVER POST PICTURES WITHOUT THE PERMISSION AND NEVER…NEVER THINK THAT THE FBI WILL GET INVLOVED IN A CIVIL MATTER.  THEY WILL DIRECT YOU TO YOUR LOCAL POLICE STATION.

Thank you

Square one

I decided to keep the blog. 

Yes, I know.  A great opening line, I did however after much ponder and thought decided to keep the blog.  Just need to put more time and effort into it like I did in the beginning. 

It seems with every beginning it will take more to crawl than to run.  It seems that with the latest fiasco has me in such anger than anything. 

I have never met someone so jealous or spiteful in my life that they love to blame the other person.  But like in anything I believe in “Just rewards”, because being a Karma believer that a person trying to harm another will eventually get harmed in the end.  It may take years or right away.

Eventually everyone feels the harm they have done to another.  I have a set of faith beliefs in place.  Granted they may not be what everyone practices, but I do not cause harm to another.  I do not believe in talking bad about another person.  I do not believe that hurting a family because you are a liar.

So in retrospect to everything.  I have decided to go back to square one.  I had asked people for help and got nowhere.

So as of today, it is a new slate.  A new everything…we’ll go forward renewed….

Irenia Guajardo

~Hellz Writer~

Closing

I think I may be closing my personal blog or open a new one. Only because reading the posts.  I have come a long way. Some were memories of a relationship that no longer existed and I was foolish enough to think he felt anything for me.  Even to the point of having several female stalkers harass me....even to the point where they acted like they had no idea why I was upset with them.
I have PTSD...and with that....I stay the hell away from people that I don't like.  I mean, I don't search for people that I want nothing to do with.  In the start of it, I was so mad, but as time went on...I realized that no matter what...they will always be there.  Creating fake accounts, trying to start something and instead of saying anything.  I just report them.
Last year, I had found something by accident and they acted like it was some sort of lesson for me.  But reality was...they don't get it that I save and PDF everything they did. All simple notes to point at their harassing problem.
But I am above all that.  I read through my blogs...and I see loads of heart ache.  Pain and suffering.  Trials and tests.  Yes, when I started blogging....I had a great following on one page.  Then the problems started and I have since then created three blogs.  I guess it shows who was bothering whom.
But nothing was as awesome as that first blog.  I allowed comments.  I held conversations with my following and now.  I keep comments closed.  I have to moderate everything because of kids that can't read nor could they comprehend simple logic.
I am thinking of wiping the slate clean.  No memories of them.  Start fresh. I haven't even blogged here because of the constant monitoring and I did enjoy my personal blogs.  To some it made a difference and I miss that.  Hopefully, I can have that back....hopefully.


Irenia Guajardo
~Hellz Writer~